With the holiday season upon us, I am looking back at some of what has happened in my practice in 2017 and feeling grateful: Grateful to my clients, who amaze me every day with their presence and humanness, their willingness to do the work, and their ability to feel themselves and take action in ...read more
Call for support for international adoption search — Pune, India
With all that is in the news about the lack of support for international adoptees in their search process, it was heartening to read this article calling for more awareness and support for children adopted from the Pune region in India. The road is certainly difficult. Sunanda Mehta explains ...read more
The State of Adoptee Rights for Access
Such an important topic, with the NY bill in question passing the assembly and senate and about to go before the governor. This article from the Associated Press talks about the need to provide the basic human right to know who you are and where you come from, and discussed the situation in four ...read more
DNA Tests and Adoptees on CBS
DNA and Adoptee Search aired on CNN yesterday, talking with adoptees and about adoptees use of DNA tests to find family. ...read more
Adopted Adults: Does my therapist need to have special kowledge of adoption?
Adopted adults: if you are having symptoms of anxiety or depression, difficulty knowing who you are and what you want, or difficulties in relationships, you might be looking for a therapist. Maybe you are not specifically looking to address issues related to your adoption. One of the most common ...read more
Clinical Recommendations: Adoptees and Loss in Adulthood (Part 4 of 4)
This is the fourth of four posts that began as a paper given at the New Jersey Let’s Talk Adoption Conference on April 1, 2017 to a group of adoptive parents, adoptees, adoption social workers and others interested in adoption who had gathered as part of a day-long conference. (To start at the ...read more
Results of Adoptee Survey (Part 3 of 4)
This is the third of four posts that began as a paper given at the New Jersey Let’s Talk Adoption Conference on April 1, 2017 (to read the whole series start here). I spoke to adoptive parents, adoptees and social workers interested in adoption who gathered at a day-long conference. The organizers ...read more
Loss and grieving (for adoptees and everybody else) Part 2 of 4
This post began as a paper given at the New Jersey Let’s Talk Adoption Conference on April 1, 2017 to a group of adoptive parents, adoptees, adoption social workers and others interested in adoption who had gathered as part of a day-long conference. As I explained in my first post in this series ...read more
What is it about grief, loss and adult adoptees? (Part 1 of 4)
Dear adoptee: are you, or is someone you know, struggling with a loss that you don’t think you can get over? Have you had the experience of having your life grind to a halt because someone left, or died, or something you were counting on fell through? This is such a common and painful part of ...read more
Birth/First Mothers
I want to share this lovely piece by a birth mother on first contact, especially timely in light of records being opened in NJ. ...read more