Is Adoptee Group Therapy for me?
You might be looking for an adoptee group if you feel:
- alone in your struggles
- rejected in relationships
- scared of being abandoned even when the relationship is going well
- confused about who you are
- the stress and complication of being an adopted person in the world,
And if you resonate with any of these issues, adoptee group therapy might be for you.
If you have tried online or in person adoptee support groups and want an environment that is safer, with a professional facilitator and where you can share freely, receive feedback and work on your issues in the group, then one of my adoptee therapy groups might be for you.
It can be scary to consider being in a therapy group, but if you feel that adoption related issues are emerging in your own therapy and you want more focused work around these topics, or if you are not in therapy and want to try a modality that gets you closer to your own experience and promotes healing in relationship in an exciting and vibrant way, group therapy might be for you.
I have two new groups starting October 20th, 2020 and running through April, one for adults (Tuesday evenings, 7:30-9pm) and one for young adults (Tuesday afternoons) and you can set up a free 30-minute phone consultation for the group now, or contact me for more details. The groups will be held online on zoom and will be limited to a maximum of 8 people.
If you are interested in future openings join my email list to keep in touch.
Adopted Adult or Adopted Young Adult
More about the Adult Adoptee Therapy Group
For adults older than college age, my Monday night group combines elements of a regular, facilitated support group with group therapy. Some people use group to supplement their individual therapy, when they want to work more on adoption related issues; other use it instead of therapy.
More about the Young Adult Adoptee Therapy Group
The young adult group deals with all the same issues as the adult group, but with a focus on the special concerns of people 19-24.
We will work on achieving healthy independence, reducing stress, starting, deepening and ending relationships, relationships with adoptive family, birth family, desires to search, DNA, and managing any symptoms of depression or anxiety.
We also delve deeply into identity.
- Who am I?
- How do I know?
- How do I feel my connection with others?
Depending on what is going on in members lives, we may deal with issues of open adoption, search and reunion, handling family relationships, and working through difficulty histories.
How is this different from an Adoptee Support Group?
In the adoption world we have a long and vital history of support groups, where adoptees or triad members get together, share their stories, and receive support and comfort from each other.
My groups combine both supportive elements and psychotherapy.
- everyone in the room is an adoptee,
- people do share their stories and find out what they have in common
- in sharing, people find healing and helpful
- There is a therapist. I am there bringing an adoption competent therapist’s focus and sensitivity to both your individual concerns and the ongoing group process.
- Attending to your own process. During group you are encouraged to pay attention to and bring forward your feelings and thoughts and you may do as much work responding to someone else’s content as bringing forth your own concerns.
- Focus on experience. Because I am a gestalt therapist, which is an experiential therapy, we will notice together how you feel when you share or respond and maybe even try an exercise together to bring your experience more clearly into awareness or explore what might be a next step for you.
- Staying with difficulty. In group we focus on topics that might be challenging, always with the intention to move into greater self awareness. We move towars what is difficult together in the service of your growth. In the difficulty are the gifts for you, and with someone trained to guide the process we can go farther together.
- Commitment. When things get difficult some adoptees know how to leave before they are left. In group therapy, members who decide to join the group are encouraged to stay with the group long enough to reap the benefits of building relationships and getting honest feedback and agree to take at least 2 sessions to leave the group if they decide it is not for them, in order to experience a different kind of leaving.
The Nitty Gritty Details: Adoptee Group Therapy with Jennifer
Size: groups are kept small, between 4-8 members, so everyone has the opportunity to do some of their own work each session. Sessions are 1 hour for 4 person groups, 1.5 hours for groups of 5-8.
Fees: group fees are $80 per session and individual sessions every 1-2 months are also required for participation.
Commitment: weekly attendance and individual sessions every 1-2 months to help clarify your goals in group, further your process, and receive support and feedback privately.
I have two new groups beginning Tuesday October 20th, 2020: young adults on Tuesday afternoon, and an adult group Tuesday evenings from 7:30-9pm. If you want to join, hop over to my calendar and schedule an initial consultation (30 minutes, free) now. If you are curious, contact me for more details. We would chat on the phone and if I think group could help you further your goals I do complimentary consultations in my office in Manhattan.
Interested but not ready to start right away? Join my email list and I will keep you informed of what’s going on.